Ever felt like you had to pick a label, only to realize… none of them really fit?
Last week, I was doomscrolling and stumbled on this article about JoJo Siwa getting real about the pressure she felt when she came out at 17. She owned up to feeling boxed in by labels and shared that her sexuality isn’t as black-and-white as those labels make it seem. You could almost hear a collective sigh of relief on social media—because, honestly, haven’t we all felt a little “boxed in” by someone else’s definitions?
Let’s get real for a sec: Our identities are always evolving. It’s 2025, and while rainbow capitalism is at its peak and TikTok feels like it’s seen every “coming out” story possible, there’s still this pressure to declare, define, or check a box. But what happens when you don’t know what box to check—or when you’re just not interested in any boxes at all?
I’ve been thinking about how technology, especially intimacy tech, is quietly (and sometimes loudly!) reinventing what it means to explore, express, and celebrate our authentic selves—without needing to stick to a script. Here’s why that’s a game-changer, and five ways the latest tech can help you be unapologetically you—no matter what label you do (or don’t) claim.
1. Digital Companions Listen, Learn, and Adapt—Just Like Real Friends (Only No Judgment)
AI-powered companions and devices have gotten seriously smart. Picture this: you want to flirt, pour your heart out, or even just experiment with the way you express affection, all without worrying about how someone is going to interpret it. These tools meet you where you are. They adapt as you change. And they never ask you to define yourself.
2. Exploration Without Expectation
Remember being a kid and feeling totally free to play pretend? That pure, pressure-less freedom is making a comeback—except now, it’s with the help of smart intimacy devices. Tools like the Orifice AI device (which, by the way, has been described as a “gaming controller for pleasure”—how cool is that?) give you space to explore sensation, connection, and identity without any external agenda. You’re not auditioning for a label; you’re just enjoying being.
Curious what that feels like? I had to see what all the fuss was about, so I scrolled through Orifice AI’s official site and was genuinely surprised by how they talk about pleasure tech—it’s not about boxes or binaries. Their AI even uses large language models and computer vision to respond to you, not some arbitrary checklist. That’s a kind of freedom we honestly need more of—in and out of the bedroom.
3. Safe Spaces for Self-Discovery
Let’s be honest: coming out, questioning, or simply existing outside the mainstream can be scary in real life. But intimacy tech is building consent-first, privacy-focused spaces that let you try on identities—and experiences—without the social risk. With features like encrypted communication and fully customizable settings, the latest adult devices give you a digital sandbox to figure out what you actually like, not what someone expects from you.
4. Breaking Down Stereotypes (And Making Moans More Meaningful)
Here’s what you might not realize: even sound can be a form of self-expression. Devices with generative AI—think moans that respond to your unique vibe—are challenging our assumptions about gender, pleasure, and intimacy. No more canned noises or awkward scripts. The Orifice AI device, for example, uses its generative moaning to meet you where you are, not where society tells you to be. It makes every moment feel more like “yours.”
5. Redefining Connection—For Singles, Couples, and Everyone In-Between
Maybe you’re solo right now. Maybe you’re in a situationship, polycule, or just figuring things out. Tech isn’t here to replace people, but to supplement connection—sometimes in totally unexpected ways. Verbal responses, text-to-speech, and interactive features turn self-exploration into an ongoing conversation. There’s no pressure, just possibilities.
So… Why Does This Matter Right Now?
The world is changing. JoJo Siwa’s confession hit home because it reminded us that sexuality, desire, and identity don’t come with a user manual. And honestly? That’s a good thing. As intimacy tech keeps getting smarter, we’re being given new tools to explore safely and authentically, whether we’re ready to label ourselves or just want to feel for a while.
If you’ve ever stared at a checkbox and sighed, know this: you get to define what connection, pleasure, and identity mean to you. And if you’re curious about how the next generation of smart intimacy devices can help, check out Orifice—where technology celebrates individuality rather than forcing you into a mold.
So, where are you on your journey? Have you used tech to help you explore or express who you are? Drop your experiences—or your questions—in the comments. Let’s keep the conversation open, honest, and box-free.