Ever feel like you’re stuck at halftime, behind on your fertility journey, and wondering if you’ll ever score your dream goal?
I was scrolling through the headlines this week, searching for a little inspiration, when I stumbled on the BBC highlight: England U19s produce second-half comeback to beat Netherlands. Instantly, I was hooked. Two down, backs against the wall, and yet—those young women in Tarnobrzeg, Poland, roared back and WON. I felt a jolt of hope just watching the highlights. It hit me: getting pregnant can feel just like that—sometimes you’re behind, it’s hard not to compare your journey to everyone else’s, and you wonder if the comeback is even possible.
And yet, comebacks happen. More often than you think.
When Every Cycle Feels Like a Halftime Deficit
If you’re trying to conceive—especially at home—it can sometimes feel like you’re always in the position of needing a “second-half comeback.” You watch others announce pregnancies on social media (hi, everyone from high school!), get monthly reminders that another cycle passed, and wonder what you’re doing wrong.
But just like England’s U19 squad, there’s power in persistence. They could have hung their heads after the first half—maybe even doubted if they had what it took to win. But they regrouped, refocused, and came back onto the pitch with a plan.
Here’s the secret: you’re allowed to take a breath, reassess, and try something new.
Your Fertility Journey is NOT a Straight Line
Here’s the myth: most people get pregnant the first month they try, right? Reality check: even for couples under 35 with no known fertility issues, the monthly chance is about 20-25%. That means most of us need patience—and a hefty dose of pep talks.
I’ve felt that sense of defeat, that tiny heartbreak each time it doesn’t work out. But like those players in white jerseys, I’ve learned to:
- Refocus: Take a moment to acknowledge each setback, but don’t let it define you.
- Try a different tactic: Whether it’s adjusting your fertility routine, seeking extra support, or just giving yourself a little more grace, a change in approach can be a game changer.
- Lean on your team: Your partner, a close friend, or even an online community—they’re all part of your support squad.
Little Changes, Big Difference: At-Home Solutions That Empower
Watching that match made me realize how important it is to have the right tools and a flexible plan. Just like a coach with a killer playbook, having trusted resources matters. For those trying at home, there are solutions tailored to your unique needs.
That’s where companies like MakeAMom’s at-home insemination kits quietly shine. They offer different kits for various situations—low motility sperm, sensitivities like vaginismus, or if you’re using frozen sperm. All kits are reusable and delivered discreetly (no embarrassing moments when your nosy neighbor grabs your package—promise!).
I love that MakeAMom empowers you to take charge of your fertility journey with information, real stories, and resources that don’t break the bank. Their reported 67% success rate speaks for itself, but what I appreciate most is how they help you feel supported—even when things don’t go as planned.
Mindset Swaps for Your Comeback Season
When the scoreboard isn’t in your favor (yet), here are some strategies inspired by the England U19’s epic comeback:
- Celebrate small wins: Maybe it’s learning something new about your cycle, having a really honest talk with your partner, or simply getting through a tough day. These are all victories.
- Allow setbacks—don’t ignore them, but don’t let them take over your identity either. Feel the feels, then move forward.
- Stay curious and open: Just like a coach tweaks their strategy mid-game, be willing to adapt. Whether that means trying new ovulation tracking methods, talking to a different doctor, or researching home insemination tools, there’s no one “right” way.
Your Turn: Ready for Your Own Comeback Story?
If you’re reading this right now, maybe you’re in your own halftime. Maybe you’re tired, frustrated, and scared to be hopeful again. That’s okay.
But remember: comebacks are possible. Sometimes, they’re even more beautiful for the struggle that comes before the goal.
So, here’s my challenge—what’s one thing you’ll do this week to set up your own comeback? Will you try a new approach, reach out for support, or maybe just show yourself a little more kindness?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s create a community where every step, every stumble, and every hard-won victory gets the cheers it deserves.
Because like the England U19s, you haven’t lost—you’re just gearing up for your second half.