Why No One Talks About Grieving During Conception—And Why We Absolutely Should

Have you ever felt like hope and heartbreak can exist at the same time? If you’re trying to conceive after a loss, you know this emotional paradox all too well. Despite the glossy Instagram baby announcements and endless TikTok fertility hacks, the truth is that conception journeys can be messy, complicated, and full of invisible struggles—ones we rarely talk about, but probably should.

Just take the recent story of Alexandra Madison and Jon Bouffard, shared in E! Online. After enduring the unimaginable pain of a stillbirth at 26 weeks, Alexandra and Jon have chosen not to hide their wounds. Instead, they’ve gone public with their new pregnancy, bravely navigating hope in the shadow of grief.

The Unspoken Side of Starting Again

When you’re ready to try again after loss, no one hands you a playbook for managing the emotional whiplash. One minute you’re checking ovulation apps with cautious optimism; the next, you’re overwhelmed by fear—what if history repeats itself? Alexandra’s story is a powerful reminder that pregnancy after loss is not just about medical checkups and fertility trackers. It’s a daily act of courage.

But why are conversations about grief during conception still so rare?

  • Taboo and isolation: Grief can be isolating, especially when friends and family don’t know what to say.
  • Toxic positivity: The pressure to "stay positive" can invalidate very real feelings of sadness, anger, or anxiety.
  • Lack of resources: Support for the emotional side of conception is still playing catch-up with the science.

And yet, as Alexandra’s journey shows, acknowledging these feelings is essential—not just for our mental health, but for reclaiming joy on the path to parenthood.

The New Era of Conception: More Choice, More Control

Here’s where the zeitgeist is shifting. In 2025, empowering people with choices—especially after a traumatic chapter—matters more than ever. That’s why at-home insemination is becoming such a game-changer for those rebuilding trust in their bodies and in the process itself.

Everyone’s experience is different, but for many, going to a clinic after loss stirs up anxiety, triggers memories, or simply feels too clinical. What if you could shift some of that power back into your own hands?

Enter At-Home Insemination

At-home insemination kits—like those developed by MakeAMom’s expert team—are providing just that. With options like CryoBaby (for low-volume or frozen sperm), Impregnator (tailored for low motility), and BabyMaker (for those with sensitivities), these kits are removing both logistical and emotional roadblocks:

  • Discrete, plain packaging means privacy and dignity
  • Reusable kits offer a cost-effective, sustainable option
  • Specialized designs address common fertility concerns (think sensitivity, vaginismus, sperm quality)
  • Average reported success rates of 67%—offering real hope backed by data

For couples or individuals navigating pregnancy after loss, the ability to try again on your own terms can empower the healing process. No sterile exam rooms. No pressure to perform on someone else’s schedule. Just space to honor your unique timeline, whether you’re ready to move fast or need to take things slow.

Building a Support System That Actually Helps

But let’s be real: tools are only one piece of the puzzle. Emotional support, community, and compassionate resources are crucial. Alexandra and Jon’s openness has created a meaningful ripple, reminding us all that support groups, therapy, and honest conversations are not luxuries—they’re lifelines.

So, if you’re:

  • Wondering if your feelings are “normal” (spoiler: yes, they are)
  • Hesitant to try again, but also longing for your family to grow
  • Searching for resources that acknowledge both the science and the soul of conception…

You’re not alone. Communities like ConceiveWise are here to connect you with stories, expert advice, and real talk about at-home conception and fertility wellness.

Final Thoughts: Let’s End the Silence

Alexandra Madison’s willingness to share her ongoing journey isn’t just brave—it’s necessary. It reminds us that hope and grief can walk hand-in-hand, and that talking about the hard stuff is just as important as celebrating the wins.

If you’re considering at-home insemination after loss, know that you have more options—and more support—than ever before. Companies like MakeAMom are making it possible for you to reclaim both agency and optimism, with sensitive solutions designed for real-life journeys.

Your story matters. It’s time we talked about all parts of family building—the hope, the heartbreak, and everything in between. What has your experience been like? Have you tried at-home insemination after loss? Let us—and our community—know in the comments below.

If you want to learn more about at-home insemination products and evidence-based guides tailored to different needs, check out MakeAMom’s range of resources and kits.