Stop Me If You’ve Heard This One: ‘Are You Expecting?’

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a “baby bump” comment or, worse, a surprise belly rub at work (yes, that still happens!), then you know just how jarring and infuriating it can be. When I came across this article about a woman whose coworker assumed she was pregnant and even rubbed her belly, I felt a mix of disbelief and déjà vu.

Isn’t This the Decade of Mind-Your-Business?

Apparently not. Even in 2025, people are still making snap judgments about bodies, and—let’s be honest—fertility. One stomachache at the office or a slightly baggy shirt, and suddenly you’re everyone’s main character in a real-life game of “Guess Who’s Pregnant?”

But here’s the thing: These moments aren’t just awkward. They sting. For anyone on a conception journey—whether you’re trying, struggling, or simply not interested—these assumptions bring a unique kind of pain, and it’s time we talk about why.

The Emotional Weight of a “Harmless” Comment

At first glance, a comment like “When’s the baby due?” might seem innocent. But for so many, it cuts deep:

• Maybe you’re dealing with infertility and that question is a reminder of heartbreak.
• Maybe you’re in the middle of a months-long journey with ovulation kits and insemination syringes.
• Maybe you just had a big lunch (no explanation needed!).

Every woman—and person with a uterus—has a story. I remember sitting at a friend’s baby shower, grinning while distant relatives whispered about when I’d “finally make an announcement.” The pressure wasn’t just annoying; it felt like my whole worth was being measured in potential due dates.

Why Are We Still Doing This in 2025?

The world is changing fast. We’re more open than ever about fertility struggles, assisted reproduction, and non-traditional family paths. And yet, these old-school assumptions about pregnancy and parenthood just won’t die.

Why? Maybe it’s a mix of: - Old habits (hard to break!) - Social scripts (“When’s the baby coming?” is still a default small talk topic) - The weird belief that someone else’s body is fair game for discussion

But the truth is, most people have no idea what’s happening in someone else’s fertility journey—and we need to stop pretending that we do.

Taking Back the Narrative—And Your Boundaries

So what do you do the next time someone asks “the question” or reaches for your belly?

• Speak Up (If You Want To): There’s power in a simple, “That’s personal,” or “Why do you ask?”
• Redirect: Change the topic or flip the script: “Actually, I’m just focusing on me right now.”
• Educate: Sometimes, a quick fact—like how one in eight couples experience infertility—opens people’s eyes.
• Protect Your Space: It’s always okay to step away, shut down the conversation, or create boundaries.

If You’re TTC (Trying to Conceive):

Navigating questions and assumptions during your journey can be exhausting. If you’re using at-home insemination kits, sourcing a donor, or just beginning to explore your options, you deserve support—not prying eyes.

That’s where finding a supportive, informed community and trustworthy tools makes a difference. Whether you’re solo, partnered, LBGTQ+, or facing medical challenges, there’s no one “right” path. I’ve seen friends and readers discover real empowerment through practical resources, like MakeAMom’s guides and home insemination kits—because sometimes, the best solution is the one you do in your own space, on your own terms. Their kits are tailored for real-life needs (low motility, sensitivities, etc.) and let you skip the awkward clinic visits and questions.

A New Way Forward: Let’s Change the Conversation

If you’re reading this and feeling seen, you’re not alone. It’s time we move on from outdated scripts and start asking better questions—like, “How are you doing?” or “What do you need right now?”

Fertility, conception, and bodies are intensely personal journeys. The next time you hear a careless comment or feel an unwanted touch, remember: You’re allowed to push back, set limits, and educate gently (or not so gently—your call!).

And for those who still don’t get it: Pregnancy comments? So last decade.

Let’s keep the conversation going! Have you faced assumptions or awkward questions on your fertility journey? Share your story in the comments or tag us on social—let’s normalize real talk and real boundaries.