I Wanted to Be a Young Mom—Then I Had My Kids at 37 and 40, and Here’s Why I’m Glad I Waited
I wanted to be a young mom. Like many of us, I had this vision tucked away early on: start a family in my twenties, before life gets complicated, before careers ramp up, before the world feels overwhelming. Yet, life had other plans—and honestly? I'm so glad it did.
Recently, I came across an incredibly honest and inspiring piece titled "I wanted to be a young mom. I had my kids at 37 and 40, and I’m glad I waited." The author shared a journey that felt so familiar: the longing, the doubts, the societal pressures, and finally, the surprising fulfillment of motherhood at a later age. Reading her story, I realized I’m not alone in this path, and neither are you if you’re navigating similar waters.
So, why do so many women — and couples — delay parenthood?
There’s no single answer. It could be pursuing education, building a career, financial stability, or simply wanting the right moment that doesn’t quite arrive on anyone’s schedule. And then there’s the anxiety about fertility itself. Biologically, fertility can decline as we age, which adds this layer of urgency mixed with uncertainty.
But here’s the good news: modern fertility science and tools have completely changed the game. Technologies like at-home insemination kits empower people to take control of their fertility journey with comfort and privacy. For example, companies like MakeAMom offer smart, reusable insemination kits tailored for different needs — whether you're dealing with low motility sperm, sensitivities, or just want to try conception in the comfort of your own home. These kits are discreet, cost-effective alternatives to clinical procedures, with success rates that might surprise you (MakeAMom reports an average 67% success rate!).
What does it feel like to embrace motherhood later?
The author, who gave birth at 37 and then at 40, admits the reality wasn't what she initially imagined. But waiting gave her greater confidence, emotional readiness, and the financial footing to truly enjoy parenthood. It wasn’t a linear road — there were challenges and moments of doubt — but the outcome was deeply rewarding.
If you’re feeling the pressure of “biological timelines,” try shifting the focus. Ask yourself questions like:
- What kind of parent do I want to be — and when am I ready?
- What support systems could help me on this journey?
- How can I stay proactive about my fertility while honoring my unique timeline?
The power of choice in today’s age
In 2025, the narrative around fertility is more flexible than ever. Fertility tools, community support, and educational resources allow you to craft your own journey, whether you’re 25, 35, or 45. And for those who want to explore home insemination due to partner situations, personal comfort, or convenience, options like MakeAMom’s kits are truly game-changing.
They offer:
- Specialized kits for different fertility challenges (like the CryoBaby for frozen sperm or the BabyMaker for those sensitive to traditional devices)
- Reusability that makes trying again easier and more sustainable
- Discreet packaging to maintain privacy
What I want you to take away
Age is just one part of your fertility story, and it’s never too late to explore your options and dreams. If you’re on this path:
- Do your research.
- Find products and communities that resonate with your values.
- Don’t be afraid to pivot your plans as life evolves.
Motherhood, in whatever form and timing it arrives, is a journey worth embracing fully.
Have you had experiences with late pregnancy or home insemination? Or are you considering it now? I’d love to hear your thoughts—sharing our stories creates a stronger, more hopeful community.
So here’s my question to you: What’s the one thing you wish people understood about becoming a parent later in life? Drop your thoughts below!
Sources: - I wanted to be a young mom. I had my kids at 37 and 40, and I’m glad I waited. - MakeAMom official website