Why You Should Never Assume Someone’s Pregnant (And the Real Fertility Conversations We Should Be Having in 2025)

Raise your hand if you’ve ever awkwardly dodged that classic question, “When are you due?”—when you’re absolutely not pregnant. If your hand is inching skyward (or if you wish it was in that meeting last week), congratulations: you’re living in 2025, where we should frankly know better—but somehow, we still don’t.

Seriously, did you catch the recent viral story “Her Coworker Rubbed Her Belly Assuming She’s Pregnant, So She Put Her In Her Place”? It’s equal parts cringe, comedy, and a glaring reminder that some folks got stuck in a time warp and missed the memo: pregnancy comments are so last decade.

The Shocking Persistence of the ‘Baby Bump’ Assumption

We get it—Hollywood and Instagram conspired to convince us that any soft curve might mean a bun’s in the oven. But let’s get real: not every rounded belly needs a baby shower. Whether you’ve just crushed Taco Tuesday, are living your best life with zero intention of ever being a parent, or are quietly, courageously facing fertility challenges, strangers (and coworkers!) prodding your midsection is, well, not it.

But why do these assumptions stick around, especially in the era of at-home fertility empowerment and body positivity?

Open Loop: What Should We Be Talking About at Work?

Here’s the plot twist: while awkward belly rubs make for viral drama, what most people aren’t talking about is infinitely more interesting. We’re in a new age where fertility is no longer defined by secretive doctor visits or whispered conversations. From solo parents by choice to LGBTQ+ couples, to those tackling fertility journeys at home, the landscape has never been more diverse (or more exciting).

So, the real question is: What does a respectful, modern conversation about fertility look like in 2025? And how can we all do better?

The New Rules: What Not to Say (and What to Say Instead)

Let’s break it down:

• Don’t: Assume anyone’s reproductive status based on appearances.
• Don’t: Ask intrusive questions like “When are you having kids?” or “Are you trying?”
• Don’t: (Seriously!) Pat, touch, or generally invade someone’s personal space because you think you see baby news.

Do:

• Respect boundaries and privacy.
• Celebrate life choices—whether they include kids, pets, plants, or a house full of vintage video games.
• Offer support without prying. (“If you ever want to talk about family stuff, I’m here—no pressure!” is a safe bet.)

A Quiet Revolution: Home Fertility Solutions Take Center Stage

Here’s the bit your nosey coworker probably missed: while they’re busy assuming, private and powerful home insemination kits are helping people write their own fertility stories—no awkward office gossip required.

Companies like MakeAMom’s home insemination solutions are a game-changer for all kinds of families. Whether you’re using frozen donor sperm (shoutout to the CryoBaby kit), dealing with low motility (hello, Impregnator), or need something gentle for sensitive situations (the BabyMaker’s got your back), these kits are putting control, dignity, and privacy back in your hands—not your coworker’s.

And get this: their kits are reusable (take that, single-use plastic), cost-effective, and shipped so discreetly that not even the most eagle-eyed office gossips could figure out what’s inside. Their reported 67% success rate isn’t too shabby, either.

Let’s Move the Conversation Forward

What if we used viral stories—not as cautionary tales about “what not to do”—but as a springboard to celebrate how far fertility has come?

• Normalize all kinds of parenthood. There are a million paths—biological, adoptive, solo, or none at all—and every one deserves respect.
• Champion privacy and autonomy. You do you, whether that means DIY insemination at home or absolutely zero interest in baby-making.
• Educate, don’t interrogate. Share resources, support, and space for others’ journeys.

Final Thought: The Real Question

So next time you’re tempted to play “guess who’s expecting?” (or if you’re on the receiving end of a not-so-subtle belly glance), remember: the real question isn’t “When are you due?” —it’s “How can I support your journey, whatever it looks like?”

Let’s leave outdated assumptions in last decade’s group chat and embrace the future: where everyone’s fertility story is theirs to tell, and powerful new tools put you in charge.

What’s your take? Have you experienced an awkward assumption, or used a home insemination kit to claim your own narrative? Share your story in the comments—let’s rewrite the script, one honest conversation at a time.