Have you ever wondered how people find the strength to try again—especially after the unimaginable?

Let’s talk about Alexandra Madison, a TikTok creator and advocate who recently opened up about her pregnancy after experiencing a devastating late-term loss. Her story—raw, vulnerable, and full of hope—has captured the attention of millions, and frankly, it might just change the way you see your own fertility journey.

The Unspoken Reality: Grief, Guilt, and the Long Road Forward

When Alexandra Madison and Jon Bouffard shared the joyful news of their pregnancy, it was more than the usual happy announcement. Because not long ago, Alexandra and Jon faced the heartbreak of a stillbirth at 26 weeks—a loss that’s often swept under the rug in our “happily ever after” culture. Instead of hiding, Alexandra chose to speak out, giving voice to the silent grief that so many endure alone (read Alexandra's story here).

Her vulnerability is more than just brave—it’s a rallying cry for everyone trying to conceive (TTC) after loss. If you’ve ever felt afraid, angry, or simply exhausted by the ups and downs of fertility, you are not alone.

What They Don’t Tell You About Trying Again After Loss

Grief doesn’t end the moment those two pink lines appear. Alexandra’s story is a reminder that pregnancy after loss is a wild mixture of hope and anxiety, excitement and guilt. Every milestone—every doctor’s visit, every positive symptom—feels like walking a tightrope between fear and faith.

But here’s the kicker: it’s okay to feel all of it. You can be grateful for a new chance and still mourn what’s missing. You can celebrate progress while honoring the memory of a lost little one. If this sounds like you, take it as proof that you are loving, brave, and so much stronger than you think.

Small Steps, Big Courage: What You Can Actually Control

Let’s be honest—there’s a lot about fertility and pregnancy that’s out of our hands. But there are also small (but mighty!) steps you can take to reclaim a sense of agency and hope:

• Lean on a Community: Alexandra’s willingness to share her experience has helped thousands feel less alone. Whether it’s a close friend, an online group, or even a TikTok comment section, find your people—the ones who get it and will hold you up on the tough days.

• Embrace Science and Self-Compassion: Technology has come a long way. Home insemination kits, like those offered by MakeAMom—learn more here, can put some control back in your hands, letting you try in the privacy and comfort of home. But also, know that it’s okay to take breaks, to grieve, and to be gentle with yourself, no matter what stage you’re at.

• Create Rituals of Remembrance and Hope: Alexandra reminds us that honoring the past doesn’t diminish the future. Light a candle, start a journal, plant a tree—find small ways to acknowledge both your loss and your hope.

The Surprising Truth: Resilience Isn’t Learned—It’s Built

Reading about Alexandra’s journey, you might think she’s simply “stronger” or “braver” than the rest of us. But here’s the surprising truth: resilience isn’t something you have or don’t—it’s something you create, one tiny choice at a time.

Every time you show up at a doctor’s appointment, every time you try something new, every time you let yourself dream again—you’re building it. And sometimes, the single act of trying again is the most radical, hopeful thing you can do.

What’s Next for You?

Maybe you’re just starting your TTC journey. Maybe you’re in the thick of it, feeling like you can’t take one more negative test. Or maybe, like Alexandra, you’re navigating the complicated emotions of pregnancy after loss.

Wherever you are, remember: your story doesn’t end here. There are more chapters waiting to be written. There are new technologies, like the reusable, private, and cost-effective MakeAMom kits, to support your dreams with compassion and discretion. There’s a community—here at Bloomly, and beyond—ready to walk with you, every step of the way.

So let’s lift each other up. Share your story. Ask for help. Celebrate the small wins. And never, ever give up on hope.

What does resilience look like for you in your fertility journey? Leave a comment—your voice could be exactly what someone else needs to hear.