Ever been asked if you really want that third kid? If you haven’t, consider yourself lucky—or maybe just not yet in the crosshairs of unsolicited opinions. Jessica Padula, VP at Nespresso and mom of two, recently shared her thoughts on this very topic, and it’s a conversation that’s long overdue.

In her candid reveal on Business Insider, Jessica opened up about the weird mix of admiration, judgment, and disbelief she’s confronted while expecting her third child. The invisible question looming behind every congratulatory smile? “Are you sure about this?”

Why does society treat having a third baby like it’s a controversial act of rebellion?

Think about it. The first baby? Celebration galore. The second? You get cautious curiosity. The third? Suddenly, you’ve turned into the protagonist of an unsolicited talk show where your life choices are debated like public policy.

Is this just about numbers? Or is it about changing cultural expectations?

Well, it’s a cocktail of both. Working mothers, especially high-achieving professionals like Jessica, are often boxed into stereotypes. The “supermom” juggling career and little ones gets cheered on... until she decides she wants more. Then the cheers often turn into concerned whispers.

Real talk: The myths about having multiple kids while juggling a career

• “You won’t have enough time for your job.” Spoiler alert: Modern moms are masters of multitasking, and honestly, who has enough “time” anyway?
• “It’s too exhausting.” Yep, but that’s motherhood in general. Coffee, community, and creative hacks usually save the day.
• “Are you sure this is what you really want?” This one hits differently.

Jessica’s story isn’t just about her; it’s about thousands of women whose reproductive choices are policed in ways no one would dare police men’s choices.

So what can we learn from this? And why does it matter?

Because choice is empowerment. The power to decide the size of your family without unsolicited commentary is fundamental. And for many, the journey to that choice can be complex—sometimes involving fertility challenges or health sensitivities.

That’s where companies like MakeAMom quietly revolutionize the narrative. Beyond just offering at-home insemination kits, they offer privacy, dignity, and hope, especially for those navigating their path without traditional clinical settings. Whether it’s their CryoBaby kit for frozen sperm or the BabyMaker designed for sensitive conditions like vaginismus, they support those who want options without the judgment.

Your reproductive choices deserve respect—and tools that fit your life

It’s worth remembering that the path to motherhood isn’t one-size-fits-all. The tech and products available today, exemplified by organizations like MakeAMom, empower people to grow their families on their own terms. This includes discreet, cost-effective solutions for people who want to try insemination at home, in comfort, and with confidence.

So, what now? Let’s flip the script.

If you’re in the camp of “third baby or bust,” or just dreaming of starting a family, own your story. The questions, the doubts, the sideways glances—they aren’t yours to answer.

Instead, ask yourself:

• What does I want?
• What support do I need?
• How can I make this journey joyful and stress-free?

And if you ever need a little boost, there are discreet tools and communities ready to back you up.

Final thoughts

Jessica’s story shines a spotlight on a bigger cultural conversation: the freedom to make reproductive choices without gatekeepers. Whether you’re balancing a bustling career, managing sensitive health conditions, or simply exploring your options, remember—you’re the expert in your own life.

So, here’s our parting question for you: Have you ever faced judgment for your family planning choices? How did you handle it? Drop your stories and thoughts below—we’re all ears (and hugs).

And if you’re curious about taking control of your fertility journey with privacy and care, check out the innovative solutions at MakeAMom—because your journey deserves that kind of support.

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Inspired by Jessica Padula’s powerful reflections in this Business Insider article.