Would you judge a 23-year-old with four kids—or cheer them on?
If you’ve been anywhere near TikTok (or, let’s be real, any group chat this week), you’ve probably seen headlines about Nara Smith. At 23, she’s about to welcome her fourth child. And yes, her DMs, comment sections, and the entire parenting internet are…very interested.
E! News just ran a piece titled “Pregnant TikToker Nara Smith Details Having 4 Kids Under 5 at 23”, and it’s less about the “congrats!” than the “wait, WHAT?!” You can almost hear the collective gasp (and, let’s be honest, a bit of side-eye) from people who can’t imagine being a mom of four before hitting their mid-20s.
But let’s press pause for a second. What’s actually so shocking here—the number, the age, or the fact she’s owning her choices so unapologetically? I’ve spent the past few days thinking about how stories like Nara’s fit into our bigger, messier conversation about modern family-building.
The Pressure (and Perks) of Young Motherhood
We get it: for generations, the timeline for having kids has only moved later and later—especially as fertility conversations, career paths, and financial planning get more complex. Despite this, there’s still something magnetic (and dare I say, controversial?) about someone who flips the script.
Nara’s story pulled me right back to my own experience—the nerve-wracking, hope-filled maze of deciding when and how to start a family. I remember:
- The way friends whispered, “You have time!” (But did I?)
- The late-night Googling: “What’s the best age to have a baby?”
- That mix of envy and awe when I’d see young parents on social media, looking so at ease (even if their toddlers were mid-meltdown in aisle five).
Why Does Everyone Have An Opinion?
Is it just jealousy? Concern? Old scripts about “ideal” family planning? Or something deeper? Here’s where it gets interesting: while Nara faces a tidal wave of opinions and unsolicited advice, there’s a growing movement of people carving their own path to parenthood.
Some start young and love it. Some wait, pursue careers, save, travel, and feel grateful for the pause. Some, like me, spend years navigating fertility treatments, support groups, and alternative routes—until the timing (finally) feels right.
When I first read about Nara, part of me felt that old twinge of comparison. But the truth is, there’s no “correct” age or method. The only real question is: what feels right for you?
The Quiet Revolution: How Home Fertility Kits Are Changing the Game
One thing the Nara Smith story made me realize? 2025’s family-building landscape looks like nothing our parents—or even older siblings—had to figure out. Today, you don’t need a fairy tale marriage, a mansion, or even a doctor’s appointment to start or grow your family.
Case in point: I started exploring at-home insemination out of curiosity and necessity. Clinical settings weren’t right for me. I wanted privacy, flexibility, and, yes, a bit of control back in a process that so often feels out of your hands.
That’s when I stumbled on MakeAMom’s guide to at-home insemination. Their approach is refreshingly judgment-free and way less medicalized than I expected. Their FDA-compliant kits—like the CryoBaby for frozen sperm or the BabyMaker for those with sensitivities (a real lifesaver, trust me)—are designed for real people, not just “ideal patients.”
Being able to make choices about when, where, and how to try for a baby? It’s empowering, honestly. And with discreet shipping, reusable kits, and a success rate that let me actually hope, not just wish, it felt like the future had finally arrived.
Let’s Drop The Judgment (And Make Room for All Stories)
Nara Smith’s viral moment isn’t just a headline. It’s a mirror: reflecting back our anxieties, prejudices, and secret hopes about what “good” parenting looks like. Maybe you relate to her, or maybe you don’t—but doesn’t she deserve to build her family her way?
In 2025, maybe the bravest thing isn’t having kids young, or late, or not at all. Maybe it’s owning your choices—whether that means following your own timeline, using innovations like at-home insemination, or simply ignoring the noise.
The Real Takeaway
For anyone feeling the weight of “shoulds”—should I be younger? Should I wait? Should I do this in a clinic, or is it okay to try at home?—know this: your path is valid, and there are more tools than ever to help you navigate it, quietly or loudly, on your terms.
Let’s celebrate every parent and every journey, whether you’re posting your big news at 23 with four under five, or quietly taking your first steps toward conception later in life. If you’re curious about empowerment, privacy, and smarter options, it’s never been easier to learn more—just check out MakeAMom’s resources for modern families.
So, here’s my question for you: What’s something you wish people understood about your parenthood journey? Drop it in the comments—let’s build each other up, one story at a time.