“You want a baby? Now? But what about your career?” If you’ve ever heard those words, you know they can sting—especially when all you want is to create your own version of family happiness. Recently, I read Chelsea Pitman’s story in the BBC about the judgement she faced as a netball coach even daring to dream of motherhood (read it here). Her words hit home for so many of us wondering: Why is wanting a child still seen as a weakness in 2025?
The Shocking Reality: Motherhood is Still Taboo—Even in 2025
Let’s get real. Despite an era where we celebrate authenticity and “living our best lives,” there’s still a silent, lingering judgement around women—and couples—choosing parenthood, especially outside “the norm.” In sport, like in Chelsea’s world, this is compounded by expectations to “push through” and “stay focused on the game.” But this isn’t just a problem for athletes. In boardrooms, classrooms, and even social media feeds, choosing to try for a baby can feel like announcing the end of your ambition.
Sound familiar? If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide your fertility struggles, you’re not alone. In fact, being open about your journey can be the most radical act of self-love.
The Open Loop: Why Is Asking for Support So Hard?
Why is something as natural as wanting a child still shrouded in secrecy? Maybe it’s fear of failure, or maybe it’s the endless “what ifs.” More often, it’s the fear of being judged—by friends, colleagues, even strangers online. Stories like Chelsea Pitman’s remind us that the narrative isn’t just about athletes. It’s about all of us.
But here’s where the plot twist comes in: What if sharing your struggles, your desires, and even your heartbreak could actually bring your dream closer?
Breaking the Silence: Turning Vulnerability Into Power
Chelsea’s honest confession is a vital reminder: there’s no shame in wanting a family. And there’s immense power in finding your team. Whether that’s in a locker room, a support group, or right here at Nestful, your circle matters.
Three ways to smash the stigma and claim your journey:
- Speak Up: Share your story with someone you trust. Vulnerability can create unexpected allies, as Chelsea found in her netball community.
- Find Your People: Connect with those who get it, whether that’s peers navigating similar struggles or online spaces built just for you (hello, Nestful!).
- Embrace Alternatives: There are more paths to parenthood than ever before, thanks to advancements in science and, yes, the courage of people who paved the way.
The Game-Changer: Your Journey, Your Terms
This is where the conversation shifts. For some, the “conventional path” isn’t accessible, affordable, or even desirable. Maybe you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community, solo parenting, facing medical hurdles, or just prefer privacy over clinics.
Empowering options like at-home insemination kits have quietly revolutionized fertility. Companies like MakeAMom’s home insemination solutions show that you can choose a path that’s discreet, comfortable, and tailored to your needs. Their CryoBaby, Impregnator, and BabyMaker kits address different fertility challenges—and their plain packaging? That’s a nod to privacy in a judgmental world.
It’s not about the method—it’s about the mission: building your family, your way.
From Isolation to Inspiration: Why Your Voice Matters
Chelsea Pitman’s story is powerful not just because she’s an elite coach—but because she reminds us it takes a village. For every person at home googling “why does everyone judge women who want kids?”, there’s someone else feeling the same—maybe even reading this right now.
Let’s reject the old shame and outdated standards. Let’s choose community and courage. Because every time someone shares their truth—whether it’s in a locker room, a blog comment, or a support group—we all get a little bit braver.
Final Thoughts: Ready to Join the Team?
If you’ve ever felt judged for wanting a baby—no matter your background—know that you’re not alone, and you are enough. Motherhood (or parenthood!) is not a limitation. It’s a leap of faith, an act of hope, and maybe even a little bit rebellious.
So, what’s stopping you from starting the conversation? Whether you’re sharing your story, cheering someone else on, or quietly researching your options, you’re already changing the narrative.
Drop your thoughts below—have you experienced judgement, too? What helped you push through? Let’s build our own winning team, together.