Why Netflix’s ‘Messy Girl Summer’ Missed the Mark — And What That Means for Moms Like Us
Have you heard about Netflix’s new ‘Messy Girl Summer’ category? When I first came across it, I thought, finally! A playful nod to embracing chaos, imperfections, and just letting go a little during the hot months. But as I dove deeper into the titles included, I couldn’t help but feel it missed a few crucial stories — especially for moms and parents like us juggling home conception journeys, emotional rollercoasters, and life’s messy realities.
If you haven’t read the original commentary by Joan E. Solsman on CNET, she highlights some great picks but also points out that Netflix’s lineup left out some personal favorites that perfectly capture that wild, unfiltered energy. (You can check out her full take here: I Think Netflix's New 'Messy Girl Summer' Category Missed a Few Titles, but I've Got You)
But what does this have to do with us, moms (and moms-to-be) trying to create life in the comfort of our own homes? Well, plenty, actually.
Embracing the Messiness in Motherhood and Home Conception
Let’s be real: conception journeys, especially when navigating them at home, can be messy. Physically, emotionally, and mentally. It’s not always the neat, Pinterest-perfect story people seem to put out on social media. There’s uncertainty, hope, disappointment, excitement, and so many in-between feelings that don’t fit into neat boxes.
Netflix’s ‘Messy Girl Summer’ is about owning that chaos and being unapologetically yourself. That’s exactly the vibe many of us crave when we’re using at-home insemination kits or trying fertility strategies outside the clinical setting. It’s about control and comfort but also about allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and find joy in the imperfections.
Why Representation Matters — Even in Streaming Categories
When we don’t see our experiences reflected — especially the raw, unfiltered sides — it can feel isolating. For example, many don’t realize that MakeAMom's at-home insemination kits like CryoBaby or Impregnator are changing the game for people with low motility or frozen sperm, providing options that are cost-effective and discreet. It’s a testament to the fact that motherhood journeys come in all shapes and stories, not just the glossy, clinical versions.
Much like how Netflix’s categories could be more inclusive of the diversity in ‘messy’ experiences, fertility tools and resources need to meet us where we are — messy, hopeful, sensitive, and real.
What ‘Messy Girl Summer’ Can Teach Us About Self-Care
Beyond entertainment, the concept reminds us of the importance of self-care through acceptance. Whether you’re binge-watching a fun, chaotic series or using at-home fertility tools, the key is embracing what works for you.
- It’s okay to have off days.
- It’s okay if your journey isn’t picture-perfect.
- It’s okay to seek out tools and communities that support your unique story.
How to Create Your Own ‘Messy Summer’ of Parenthood Preparation
Let’s bring the spirit of ‘Messy Girl Summer’ into our fertility and motherhood journeys with these tips:
- Set Realistic Expectations: Home conception isn’t always a straight path. Accept the highs and lows.
- Lean Into Your Support System: Partner, friends, or communities like MomsNextDoor can help normalize the messy moments.
- Use Tools Designed for You: Kits like those from MakeAMom are tailored for different needs (e.g., sensitivities, sperm motility) and can make the process less stressful.
- Carve Out ‘You Time’: Whether that’s laughing at a silly Netflix show or journaling your feelings.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Every step forward is progress, no matter how imperfect.
To Wrap It Up...
Netflix’s attempt at capturing a carefree, messy vibe might have missed some titles — and that’s okay. What’s more important is how we define and embrace our own messiness on this journey. Whether it’s through the imperfect moments of home conception or the chaos of motherhood, being honest and supported makes all the difference.
So, what’s your ‘messy’ moment this summer? Share your stories below, and if you’re curious about tools that might help support your unique path, check out this discreet and user-friendly home insemination option. Sometimes, the right tools and a moment of acceptance are all you need to turn mess into magic.
Here’s to embracing the beautifully imperfect journey ahead — messy and all. 💕