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Have you ever been at a loss for words when someone you care about comes out? You’re not alone. It’s a moment charged with emotion, vulnerability, and sometimes uncertainty — for both the person coming out and those they trust enough to share with. As June winds down and Pride Month leaves its celebratory glow, the need for empathy and support remains as urgent as ever.

Recently, a compelling article from TIME titled What to Say When a Loved One Comes Out shed light on how we can be better allies, friends, and family members during these pivotal moments. It reminded me that what often matters most is how we respond — not just what we say.

Why Your Reaction Matters More Than You Think

Imagine you’re about to share a deeply personal truth that could change how people see you — and you’re scared. Your loved one’s response can either create a safe space of acceptance or build walls of doubt.

The good news? Supporting someone doesn’t require perfect words or grand gestures. It starts with genuine presence and unconditional love, which is transformative. Here's how you can be that support system:

1. Listen — Without Judgment or Interruptions

Sometimes, the best thing you can offer is your full attention. That means really hearing them, not planning your response or passing judgment. Ask open-ended questions if it feels right, but let them lead the conversation.

2. Express Affirmation and Love

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