Why Traditional Baby Shower Gifts Are Failing New Parents (And What You Can Do Instead)

Ever been to a baby shower and wondered, 'Are these gifts really what the parents need?' You’re not alone. Recently, an eye-opening article on Slate titled Traditional Baby Shower Gifts All Have the Same Problem. There’s a Solution That Doesn’t Require Buying From the Registry stirred up a conversation about the real value of typical baby shower presents—and honestly, it made me think hard about how we support parents, especially those on unique fertility journeys.

Here’s the thing: Most baby showers revolve around the classic registry checklist—diapers, onesies, bottles. Practical? Of course. But is that all new parents really want or need? The Slate article highlights a heartfelt problem: many gifts don’t fully honor the diverse paths people take to parenthood or the emotional, physical, and financial challenges along the way.

So, what is the solution? The article points toward thoughtful giving that goes beyond the usual items and recognizes where parents truly need support. And that got me thinking—how can we redefine baby shower gifting, especially for those navigating fertility struggles or alternative conception methods?

Here’s a little secret: For individuals or couples working through fertility challenges or trying to conceive at home, support isn’t just about cute clothes or fancy nursery gadgets. It’s about practical, empowering tools that make their journey feel a little less daunting and a lot more hopeful.

Take at-home insemination kits, for example. Companies like MakeAMom offer specifically designed kits—such as CryoBaby, Impregnator, and BabyMaker—that accommodate different fertility needs. These kits are reusable, discreetly shipped, and significantly more cost-effective compared to disposable alternatives. Even better, MakeAMom reports an average success rate of 67%, which is pretty incredible for home use.

Imagine gifting a hopeful parent or couple a resource like this—a thoughtful gesture that respects their path and offers real, practical assistance. It’s a game-changing idea that goes far beyond traditional registry gifts.

Why does this matter? Because every parenting journey is unique, and many people don’t fit the cookie-cutter mold of “typical” conception. Whether it’s single parents, LGBTQ+ couples, or anyone facing fertility hurdles, the way we celebrate their upcoming arrival should reflect empathy, awareness, and genuine support.

Here are a few ways to rethink your next baby shower gift:

  • Go practical and personalized: Instead of generic items, think about what the parents truly need on their fertility or early parenting journey. Sometimes that’s emotional support tools or fertility aids.
  • Consider reusable or sustainable products: Like MakeAMom’s reusable kits, eco-friendly gifts reduce waste and save money long-term.
  • Gift education and resources: Books, workshops, or subscriptions tailored to fertility and reproductive wellness can be invaluable.
  • Offer experiences or services: A gift card for a prenatal massage, doula support, or fertility counseling shows thoughtfulness and care.

So, what’s stopping us from shaking up the baby shower tradition? Sometimes it’s just lack of awareness. Articles like the one on Slate open our eyes—and blogs like this one can keep the conversation alive.

If you’re on a fertility journey yourself, or know someone who is, I encourage you to explore options like MakeAMom’s kits. They’re not just products—they’re empowering tools that many have found to be a meaningful part of their path to parenthood.

To sum it up: Baby showers should celebrate all paths to parenthood, and your gift can be part of that meaningful change. Next time you’re shopping for an expectant parent, think beyond the registry. Think about how your gift can bring real support, hope, and joy to someone’s remarkable journey.

What do you think? Have you ever given or received a baby shower gift that truly stood out? Or maybe you wish you had? Share your stories in the comments below—we’d love to hear from you!

And if you want to learn more about at-home insemination kits that can empower hopeful parents, check out these thoughtful options at MakeAMom. Because sometimes, the best gifts aren’t the flashiest—they’re the ones that truly matter.

Author

Alicia Nguyen

Hi, I’m Alicia, a women’s health advocate and science communicator with a background in biomedical engineering. My own winding path to parenthood inspired me to help others cut through jargon and find trustworthy fertility information. Outside of writing, I love trail running and experimenting with new plant-based recipes.