What if the only thing standing between you and your dream of parenthood isn’t biology or circumstance—but confidence?

Let’s be real. Deciding to build a family in a way that’s not “the norm” can be straight-up intimidating. There are endless questions: Will it work? Am I making the right choices? Do I even belong in this conversation? You're not alone. In fact, even wildly successful people struggle with confidence at the most unexpected times.

The Surprising Confession That Will Change How You View Yourself

Just this week, I read a BBC article about Sharon Horgan—the brilliant mind behind hits like “Motherland” and “Bad Sisters.” Despite a career most of us would envy, Sharon admitted she didn’t feel she “belonged in the room” until season two of Bad Sisters. Did you catch that? Someone with BAFTA trophies and Netflix deals still doubted herself!

How many of us are quietly doing the same? Especially when it comes to something as deeply personal (and sometimes overwhelming) as non-traditional parenthood?

Why Confidence Matters More Than You Think

If Sharon Horgan can achieve so much while secretly doubting herself, imagine what you could do by finally owning your place on this journey. Here’s the truth: Confidence isn’t just a feeling—it’s fuel.

It pushes you to ask big questions, pursue the options that work best for you and your family, and stand tall against naysayers. And yes, confidence makes the rollercoaster of fertility and family-building a little less lonely. Even science backs this up! Studies show that self-assured individuals cope better with setbacks and stick to their goals longer.

But what if you don’t feel that way right now?

Spoiler: Nobody Feels 100% Ready. Ever.

Here’s the open loop you’ve been waiting for: No one starts their parenthood journey totally confident. Not celebrities, not the people you follow on Instagram, not even your best friend who “makes it look easy.”

So, how do you build the confidence you need? You start with empowerment and tiny steps.

1. Seek Out Reliable Resources

Don’t leave yourself at the mercy of endless online forums and horror stories. Instead, look for evidence-based advice and communities that empower you. For example, the team at MakeAMom’s official site curates not only product details, but also clear instructions, user stories, and real-world tips for alternative conception—all without judgment or pressure. Knowing you’re backed by honest facts (and not just hype) is a major confidence booster.

2. Celebrate Small Wins—Even the Invisible Ones

Maybe you ordered your first insemination kit, or finally talked to your partner about donor options. Celebrate it. These might not feel like headline moments, but every step forward is proof you’re making this dream real.

3. Reframe Comparison into Inspiration

Remember Sharon Horgan’s confession? Instead of thinking, “She made it and I haven’t,” try, “If she struggled and succeeded, so can I.”

4. Build Your Village (Even Online)

Confidence is contagious. Whether through in-person meetups or digital support groups, connecting with others on a similar journey fosters solidarity. Who knows—you might even inspire the next person wrestling with uncertainty.

5. Stay Curious, Not Judgmental

Your journey doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. There’s no “right” way—just the way that works for you.

The Myth of “Belonging” and the Beautiful Truth

A lot of us wait for some external sign that we finally belong: a positive pregnancy test, a doctor’s approval, a nod from family or friends. The real epiphany? Belonging starts when you claim your path, trust your instincts, and give yourself permission to try. Every option—be it IVF, at-home insemination, surrogacy, or donor conception—demands courage. That courage creates belonging.

And the world is catching up. We’re living in a moment where alternative families are more visible, more celebrated, and better supported than ever before. Each step you take adds to that momentum, rewriting what’s possible for tomorrow’s parents.

Final Thoughts: Your Confidence Is the Game-Changer

If you take away anything from Sharon Horgan’s story—or the stories of everyone forging new paths to parenthood—let it be this: Your confidence might feel wobbly now, but it’s also the most powerful tool you have.

So, next time you doubt whether you belong in this journey, remember: you do. You always have. Let’s celebrate each moment of courage, support one another, and keep building the futures we want—one bold, beautiful, confident step at a time.

What helped you find your confidence on your fertility or parenthood journey? Share your story below and let’s inspire the next wave of future families!