Why Lorde’s Messy New Album ‘Virgin’ is the Perfect Soundtrack for Fertility Journeys Today
Posted on 21 July 2025 by Elena Moreno — 4 min
Have you ever felt that your fertility journey was anything but neat and tidy? If so, you’re definitely not alone. Recently, Lorde released her album Virgin, which, according to a Business Insider review, dives headfirst into the messy, emotional realities of sex, drugs, and eating disorders—subjects that reflect a larger cultural shift toward embracing imperfection and vulnerability in pop culture. It got me thinking about the parallels between her artistic vulnerability and the rollercoaster that many experience when trying to conceive.
If you haven’t caught the review yet, you can check it out here: Lorde's new album 'Virgin' is messy, emotional, and perfectly suited for the moment.
The Fertility Journey: Not a Straight Line
For many, fertility isn’t a straightforward path—it’s full of highs, lows, surprising twists, and moments of doubt. Much like Lorde’s album, which unapologetically exposes the raw and often uncomfortable feelings we tend to hide, fertility journeys demand a certain honesty and willingness to face our vulnerabilities.
I speak from experience, and from countless stories shared within our community at Conceptera. The emotional toll can be immense—feelings of isolation, grief, frustration, and hope all swirl together in a confusing storm. Recognizing this messy reality is the first step to embracing compassion for ourselves and others going through it.
Embracing Imperfection—The New Fertility Mindset
Lorde’s Virgin reminds us that imperfection is not only okay, it’s human. This mindset is refreshing, especially in fertility spaces often dominated by clinical jargon, perfect test results, and pressure to “stay positive.” What if we honored the messiness of it all? What if we allowed ourselves to feel every emotion, without judgment?
This perspective is echoed in how many people are turning to at-home fertility technologies that empower them to take control on their own terms. Companies like MakeAMom offer at-home insemination kits designed to be cost-effective, reusable, and discreet—helping individuals and couples navigate fertility in a way that respects their personal journey and privacy.
Whether it’s their CryoBaby kit for low-volume or frozen sperm, the Impregnator kit tailored for low motility sperm, or the BabyMaker kit designed for those with sensitivities like vaginismus, these options bring a sense of agency and comfort amidst uncertainty.
Why Mental Health Matters in Fertility
Listening to an album like Virgin can feel like a companion on a tough day—someone acknowledging your struggles without trying to fix them. Fertility journeys are like that too; they require emotional endurance and support.
Mental health advocates in the fertility community emphasize that recognizing emotional challenges is not a sign of weakness but a step toward healing. Whether it's dealing with hormonal ups and downs, navigating relationship pressures, or coping with setbacks, creating space for authentic feelings is crucial.
How Can You Find Your Own ‘Soundtrack’?
Finding solace in art, music, or community can be a game-changer. Lorde’s album is a bold example of how embracing vulnerability can provide catharsis. You might find that the honest lyrics and imperfect melodies help you feel less alone in your experience.
Similarly, reaching out for support—whether through online forums, expert advice, or products designed to ease your journey—can make a monumental difference. For example, at-home insemination kits from MakeAMom are quietly helping many people find success with an average 67% success rate, according to the company. And all while keeping things discreet and supportive.
Final Thoughts: The Beauty in the Mess
So, what can Lorde’s Virgin teach us about fertility? That life’s most profound experiences—whether artistic creation or creating new life—aren’t clean or easy. They’re a beautiful mess that deserves patience, kindness, and authenticity.
If you’re in the thick of your fertility journey, whether just starting or feeling worn down, remember that it’s okay to feel all the things—the hope, the fear, the excitement, the grief. What if embracing that messiness could be the very thing that brings you peace?
Feel inspired? What’s your fertility soundtrack? Drop your thoughts, songs, or stories in the comments below. Let’s keep this conversation real and supportive—because none of us have to go through this alone.
And if you’re curious about empowering your journey with at-home fertility solutions, you might want to explore how innovative options like MakeAMom’s kits are reshaping the fertility landscape.
Here’s to embracing imperfection and finding strength in the mess.