“I finally feel like I belong in the room.” That’s what TV star Sharon Horgan—creator of Bad Sisters and Motherland—recently admitted in a BBC interview, and honestly? If you’re on the rollercoaster ride of trying to conceive, those words hit different.

Maybe you’ve scrolled through endless fertility forums at 2am. Maybe you’ve felt out of place at baby showers, or wondered if everyone else just has it figured out. Here’s the truth: you’re not alone, and finding confidence, even if it comes later than you hoped, is not just possible—it’s transformative.

The Confidence Gap No One Talks About

Let’s get real. The journey to parenthood (whether it’s your first try or your fifteenth) is filled with “what ifs” and “am I enoughs?”.

• Why does it seem like everyone else has it together?
• Is it normal to feel lost, anxious, or even embarrassed about needing support?
• How do you tap into that Sharon Horgan-level confidence, when everything feels so uncertain?

Confidence, as Sharon admits, didn’t come to her overnight—and it doesn’t magically appear when you decide to start or grow your family, either. But what if that was actually a strength, not a setback?

What If Self-Doubt Is a Superpower?

Sounds wild, right? But here’s the thing: Sharon only “found confidence” after years of hard work and putting herself out there. It wasn’t a given—it was a journey. She says, “I finally feel like I belong in the room.”

That’s the same room you’re in right now—the one filled with unknowns, but also with hope, possibility, and community. What if the discomfort, the vulnerability, the second-guessing is what makes you strong, resilient, and ready?

Why Community (Not Perfection) Builds Confidence

If you’re waiting to feel 100% ready—or to do it all “perfectly”—you might be waiting forever. But confidence grows in community:

• Sharing your story: When you open up (even just with one trusted friend), you’ll be shocked by how many “me too” replies you get.
• Learning from others: Hearing real stories, like Sharon’s, gives you proof that everyone’s path is unique—and there’s no one “right” timeline.
• Asking for help: Whether it’s emotional support or practical tools, seeking help is not a weakness. It’s how breakthroughs happen.

Practical Ways to Boost Your Fertility Confidence

Okay, let’s make this real. How do you actually flip the script from “self-doubt” to “I belong in this journey”?

1. Celebrate Every Step

Had an honest conversation with your partner about next steps? That’s a win. Booked an appointment, researched a new approach, or just took a day to rest? Wins.

2. Use Tools That Empower You

Technology is changing the game—and sometimes, the most empowering thing is knowing you have options. For folks wanting to try at-home insemination, resources like MakeAMom’s at-home insemination systems offer privacy, control, and a sense of agency. With kits tailored for different needs (like low motility sperm or sensitivities), you’re not just “waiting for luck”—you’re actively participating.

3. Invest in Your Mental Health

Talk to a counselor. Start journaling. Listen to podcasts from people who get it. (Seriously, Sharon Horgan’s brutally honest interviews are a vibe!) Your mindset is a tool—keep it sharp and gentle.

4. Connect With Real Communities

Online or face-to-face, community is everything. Whether it’s a trusted friend, a support group, or a forum of strangers-turned-cheerleaders, don’t go it alone.

5. Let Go of the Timeline

There’s no clock on confidence. Sharon Horgan found it later than she “should have”—and look where she is now. You’re exactly where you need to be, right now.

You Don’t Need Permission to Belong

Maybe you don’t see yourself in the glossy ads or “perfect” Instagram stories about parenthood. Maybe your journey is nonlinear. Guess what? You still belong.

Fertility and family-building in 2025 aren’t one-size-fits-all. The conversation is changing, especially as people speak up about their struggles and triumphs. There are, genuinely, more resources and choices than ever before—whether you’re exploring clinical paths or at-home methods like those from MakeAMom, whose kits are used by people from all walks of life, with a real-world success rate and no judgment attached.

The bottom line? Confidence doesn’t just show up—it’s built, day by day, story by story. And sometimes, like Sharon Horgan, you’ll look up and realize, “Hey, I do belong in this room.”

What’s one thing you can do today to step into your journey with a little more confidence? Share your story below—or reach out to someone who reminds you: you already belong.